August 17th, 1991. I have officially been on this planet for 25 years in this body. That is a lifetime for some, and a mere blink of an eye to others. For me... it's simply that odd place in life where society has tried to define what my "adulting" should look like, yet to the core of my existence I am something completely different. This used to torment me with thoughts of defeat, doubt, and the constant feeling that I was doing life "wrong". I am so grateful that in the past 4 years I have embarked on a journey to define for myself what adulting will look like and release myself from society's mold. Adulting for me looks like footie pajamas and hot chocolate at the end of a long day instead of wine and a bubble bath. I prefer late nights at playgrounds (or any type of outdoors event) over lounges/bars/clubs. My partner in love and I have given up our corporate jobs, moved in with my mom, and taken a head first dive into the entrepreneur/artist life. I have 2 degrees that I'm virtually doing nothing with (third times the charm though; shoutout to my Yoga Therapy certification :D). And guess what?!
I. Am. HAPPY.
Happier than i've ever been to be completely honest. There are days that are a struggle, but I guarantee I would trade a blissful day of society's version of "adulting" for my hard days ANY DAY. Embarking on a journey to follow my passions and manifest my dreams has been one hell of a ride. I have made many mistakes and fallen into (and thankfully out of!) several bad situations. Yet a few great things have remained consistent: I am always surrounded by an abundance of wisdom from which I learn daily. My resiliency is my greatest strength. & I do not make the same mistake twice.
In honor of making it to a quarter century here are 25 life lessons that have changed my life for the better forever.
6 things/ideas I removed from my life:
1. Meat & dairy. This is not a push for veganism. Eat meat & dairy IF it serves you well. My sole point is for you to eat mindfully. Pay attention to how food affects you. If it makes you feel good (energized, mentally clear, hydrated) from the inside out, continue it. If it does not (food coma, sluggish, bloated), delete or decrease it. Simple.
2. The idea that I had to prove myself to anyone. I found that when I did there was still a lingering dissatisfaction because I had not yet accepted myself. And when I did not I was so broken that it would often stand in the way of my purpose. Seek only to evolve yourself and prove to YOU that you are worth all you seek.
3. Comparison. It blocks love, and love is everything. Comparison breeds insecurity, jealousy, and division amongst people unnecessarily. There is an old yogic proverb: "By cultivating attitudes of friendliness toward the happy, compassion for the unhappy, delight in the virtuous, and disregard toward the wicked the mind may know calmness." And it is that calmness that breeds peace, joy, and love.
4. Lying. First and foremost to yourself. Even the little white lies. Lying automatically puts you in a position where your reality is no longer your own. You surrender yourself to the obligation of faking your reality until you choose truth. Truth is the essence of freedom
5. Pessimistic people. The people around you influence you no matter how strong you are. Removing negative vibes makes space for positivity and abundance.
6. Quick fixes. They always lead to solutions that quickly fade away, which causes you to go in circles as you find yourself back again at the core of the issue. You get what you put in. Put in longevity, and the solution will last you a lifetime.
6 habits that have changed me:
7. Yoga, meditation, & self-care! Creating a sacred space where I could just be has allowed me to fall head over heels in love with myself. It is the space where I get to know what my being needs to be and create the best life for me.
8. Loving myself first and gently. Your relationship with yourself determines if and how others will love you and how you will love others. Be gentle as you navigate that journey. In a world that has strongly taught us to hate ourselves it is no easy feat to fall in love with self. Be determined. Be patient.
9. Learning from my anger. Everything that annoys/perturbs/angers you is a reflection of something within yourself with which you are unhappy. Choose to locate that place, AND make a change. Watch how anger virt